Sitting here in the morning sipping my coffee, I check my email and come across 4 different messages all asking the same questions. This is powerful to me. It takes me back and gives me a sense of doubt, sadness, venerability and fear.
The questions: I want to follow my passion but what will people say and think? How did you get started without being rejected? At first, these questions were unexpected because what does this have to do with fashion and beauty? The most basic of our emotions surface when we feel like we are going to be rejected.
It would be simple to give the typical answer of "who cares and do what you want," but the awful truth, yes people will reject you and judge you. The best part? Once you understand this, you can conquer it.
No matter who you are, what you look like or where you are from, we all have something that makes us unique. We ALL carry a gift within us that we can share with others. The beauty is, despite our biggest differences, we all desire the same need and that is to be understood. We can learn a lot about ourselves if we listen and take the time to understand others. This is a gift.
It may seem like I am off topic, but it all works together. When you can move past the fear of how you will be judged when you step out of your comfort zone, then you are already on your way. Last week I had a hair video shared all over Instagram with over a million views! Do you think every comment was positive? No! Do you think that will stop me, heck NO! For every 100 amazing comments, there will be a negative one. It's part of the job, be ready for it.
Absolutely no one wants to feel rejection, but at the same time if you are following your dreams, taking risks and stepping out, then you will be rejected. I see it as a positive, because every single rejection I have experienced has made me stronger, better and given me the realization that you cannot control what other people are thinking and feeling. Thank goodness for that! Who would want that responsibility. This gave me power.
I am giving you the power to be who you want, to pursue your passion and to take a risk. The power is understanding that you will be judged, and that is ok. I know you are special and have something amazing to offer so push the fear aside.
When I first started on social media, I didn't tell anyone. I had the same fears, but I also had a passion that over powered my doubts. I took a chance and now I am happier then I have ever. I am my own boss, I work my own hours and I choose who I want to work with and bring into my life. I hold the power because I choose too.
Please, take one small step everyday to be who you want to be. No matter who you are or what you do, the answer is inside and it will override the doubt and fear. You must push yourself.
Allow yourself to see the importance of rejection and how it can be flipped into strength.
I LOVE your emails and questions! You all inspire me everyday. Please keep them coming.
Lots of Love,